Etiquette custom First, marriage Discusses marriage in the 80s, discusses marriage the way to be diverse. First, recommender to male and female both sides situation (age, facial expression, disposition, years of schooling, family status and so on) familiar, warm-hearted help, reconciles on own initiative for it, perhaps is discussed marriage a side request for it. Second, male and female both sides are free to choose a mate, to strive for perfectly justifiable, holds an acquaintance to be the recommender, this kind discusses marriage is only the form. Third, by the mass media, the marital referral center undertakes discusses marriage the function. The men and women who discusses marriage after the recommender must agree the time to look at one another, meets for the first time only to the facial expression, the age, the conversation manner has the surface layer to know, later voluntarily the appointment, to opposite party moral character, the family, the occupation, the interest hobby will make the inquire deeply. The cities many youth men and women are free to choose a mate, opposite party daidao family, introduces gives the family member, oneself act as the recommender. Chan hua, Wudi County minority area Shang Youding “the baby kissed” the vulgar customs. … The engagement men and women associate period of time, thought that satisfaction is then engaged, has written and the oral two ways. The written engagement soon in the family elder's rank, the name, the age and so on write on the red paper, “placard”; The separate document writes the children name, the age, the animal representation as well as “the date of birth match case, is the life mutual promotion of the five elements, is willing to tie the marriage alliance” and so on writing, “Cambodia”. Then transmits both sides by the recommender, groom's family must put the ritual to the bride's side. In the 80s, the partial countryside area selects this method. The oral engagement is male and female both sides (including guardian, children, directly-related family member and so on) agrees the time meeting, talks the way to settle the marriage. The place elects generally in the groom's family, gives a banquet by the groom's family to receive cordially, and gives the bride's side the gift on first meeting.
Discusses marriage men and women both sides to discuss that the marriage time, bridegroom's gift to bride's family how many, the marriage agenda, meets (or delivers) kisses the way and so on. Discusses the marriage by the bilateral guardians, the children to act to exchange the opinion directly, sometimes must the recommender be coordinated, often discussed that only then achieves the mutual recognition many times. When discusses the marriage, the groom's family wants to pay the bride's side a bridegroom's gift to bride's family to buy the trousseau, the bride's side often returns a small part to show politely. … Before getting married, male and female both sides to arrive at the Local government to go through the marriage registration formalities first. The bride's side buys the trousseau, the groom's family must decorate the nuptial chamber, places the new furniture (, if the bride's side provides a daughter with a dowry furniture, must deliver ahead of time), the bed (kang) lays down one newly, the entrance pastes the antithetical couplet. Gets married this day, generally meets (some by groom's family to deliver by the bride's side), in the early 80s, saddle horse Che Huo rode the bicycle, the mid and late part rides the tractor or the vehicle for agriculture purpose, in the 90s multipurpose sedan car. The bride has the maternal home person dowry, the trousseau also delivers. Gets out when sets off the firecrackers, to play music welcome. Bridal, in a bridegroom step in hospital, the master presides over the wedding ceremony ceremony. Afterward, the bride enters the nuptial chamber, the bystander emerges immediately, the name said that “teases the bride”, area Binzhou also has “noisy mother-in-law” the custom. Is the date, the groom's family chats the banquet to entertain the bride's side visitor with to congratulate the relatives and friends, the cities entertains guests at a banquet many in the hotel. In the 90s, the government initiates to change existing habits and customs, organization collective wedding ceremony, both lively and thrifty, but also some youth men and women choose the traveling marriage. … In the countryside marries the bridegroom's gift to bride's family overweight phenomenon to be more common, the cities send and pick up the bride, the wedding banquet to put up a front the wind also to have potential of the spread.
Second, gives birth In the 80s, the national initiative birth control, latter decides as the national policy, to gives birth the custom to have affects greatly. The child-bearing age postpones mostly, the birth embryo number is the reduction greatly. After marriage many year sterility, no longer uses the superstitious way to pray for a son, the husbands and wives to the hospital inspection, are sick the immediate cure. After being pregnant, arrives at the hospital physical examination frequently, the childbirth goes to the hospital generally. The baby is born for 3 days later, the maternal home carries the nutritious foods and baby clothes comes to see. Because is the only child, gives a name especially prudently, is fastidious about unique, the implication freshly profound, the pleasing to the ear upper opening, the countryside gives a name still needs to manifest the rank the character consideration. The whole family participates in the naming mostly, often extracts several names, uses according to qualification. The infant name many to fold the character, the given name two characters are gradually many. The baby is born the 12th day, the popular name “12 noons”, the relatives and friends bring the gift to celebrate, for baby “round ear”. Is born for 1 month, the popular name “the plenilune”, the maternal home meets the mother and child to go to period of time, for baby “articulation head”. In the 90s, the cities manufacture a writing brush fashionably with the baby lanugo, takes the permanent commemoration. To the hundred days, is the baby hangs the longevity lock pendant worn by children, puts on “the hundred families clothing”, the photography accepts as a memento. A year old of date, the relatives and friends congratulate, the master holds the family reunion banquet to entertain. In countryside, if is the boy, a year old of memento is especially grand. In the past was popular “grasps the week” the custom, presently gradually abandons.
Third, name In the 80s, the family and the relative name with first basic same, written name like my father, the command revere, my dear friend, my younger brother urgently needing to be gradually few, only in some special occasion use, mostly uses the oral name. The social name change is big. In the late 70s, between the members of different social classes called comrade mutually. In the 80s, only calls comrade in the conference or in official business activity, generally the situation calls skilled worker, if many are symmetric for the acquaintance or the colleague by the surname, the crown by “old” or “is small” according to the age before the surname. The countryside fellow villager many by the rank, the age takes the name basis. In the 90s, in the cities calls gentleman to the male, calls madame, wife, woman, young lady to the female and so on. The business circles call “boss” (business owner) popularly, “mister” (company executive). Between the official many are symmetric by the duty, if opposite party is a deputy, “” the character will remove. Many are symmetric to the professionals by the title, like some professor, some doctor, some labor (engineer) and so on. … Fourth, birthday Offers birthday congratulations for old person is the traditional reverence for elders custom. In the 80s, above 60 years old person only then starts to celebrate a birthday generally. Birthday this day, the children, the relatives and friends bring other presents which the cake, the meats, the liquor, the tea and old person like to come for old person to offer birthday congratulations. In the family buys the sumptuous banquet, old person dresses a new home in the seat of honor, the whole family 11 proposes a toast, wishes old person the healthy longevity. In the 90s, offer birthday congratulations many families to the hotel for old person, some to the television station, the Broadcasting station request a song or wraps a movie for old person the birthday greetings. Is a date, because of children all assembled, illuminates entire family lucky countenance mostly. … In the 90s, below 60 years old the middle-aged or young people also start to celebrate a birthday; The only child for the family attention's center, on the birthday must, and is grand, has lost the birthday custom the significance originally.
Fifth, funeral In the 80s, in the traditional funeral custom the partial etiquette are popular in the countryside. When old person the life is critically ill, the children namely trade clothes to old person, regardless of winter summer, cotton-padded jacket. Side every directly-related family member protects, listens to the will, visual old person leaves the world. Old person breathes, the younger generation arrives in the courtyard “to call the soul” immediately face the southwest, intends to calls the dead soul, also has the obituary notice clansman, the neighborhood meaning. Then the goner puts on the bier, for food, burns incense, selects the large oil lamp lit day and night before Buddha status. The younger generation mourning dress, in the gate is pasting the white paper. Manages funeral's head of the clan or the village cadre delegates the human to report the mourning to the dead relatives and friends, has the written obituary notice and the oral newspaper loses two forms, the primary coverage and died the time which for the dead name, encoffinned, conducts a funeral procession. … In the early 80s, the countryside area implemented the burial of dead underground, must the goner load in the coffin, named encoffinned. This time, the relatives must arrive to the remains farewell. If the dead is a female, must present by the maternal home person. After encoffinning, the coffin parks the funeral awning, the younger generation passes in review two edge joints according to the men and women to offer condolences the relatives and friends. Offering condolences cries next to kneel the first ritual, the very close relative still needs to pay establishes the meter. Stops the spirit time 3~5 days different.
Conducts a funeral procession the preceding day of evening, the people in mourning holds the farewell ceremony for the dead, the popular name “delivers winds around”, the place elects in the street intersection or the open area. The deacon person suspends the altar in advance, sets at the incense burner candlestick, arranges the cooked food food and wine, the younger generation and the relatives and friends 11 kotows to the dead soul streamer sees off. The ritual finishes, burns paper resembling money the vehicle, the horse, the sedan, the money tree and so on, the children cries the number to rush to the fire, shows to detain to the dead. Conducts a funeral procession, also the name buries, the eldest son holds the spirit streamer, other younger generations hold the funeral staff, along with coffin to tomb. After the coffin enters the hole, the younger generation holds the earth to scatter covers in the coffin intends to kisses buries. Then the fellow villager piles earth Cheng Fen. Third date, the children earth fill “visits the grave on the third day after burial”, the burning paper resembling money sacrifice mourns. From the family member died the date every to hold a memorial service for one time on seventh to the grave, “77” up. … The parents were alive die do not follow the above etiquette. In the late 80s, within the boundaries universal carrying out cremation, the government initiates to change existing habits and customs, the etiquette simplifies gradually. Falls evenly disperses in the field grave, establishes the public cemetery, some villages build up the memorial hall depositing cinerary casket. In the 90s, the countryside set up a stone monument fashionably for dying or the tree-planting makes the commemoration. … The township dwellers funeral compares Jan, after dying, held the ceremony of bidding farewell to the deceased in the funeral parlor, the relative, the friend, the colleague expresses grief to the dead. Afterward, delivers the cremation factory cremation, the cinerary casket delivers memorial hall depositing.
Sixth, ancestor worship In the 80s, the countryside old times wind of the ancestor worship was popular. The ancestor worship by sweeps the graves, makes sacrifices to one's ancestors two ways. Sweeps the graves the name to visit a grave, has the fixed date. Pure Brightness sweeps the graves universally, besides sacrificial offering, but must add the earth for the grave, protection summer day rain wash. Lunar calendar in July 15 with October 1 sweeping the graves many are the females, generally on only “the new grave” (i.e. died grave of soon paternal grandparents, the parents). Spring Festival sweeps the graves grandly, before entire clan male arrives at the grave, the bowing politely ancestors, and beats a drum plays music, to set off the firecrackers. Makes sacrifices to one's ancestors, namely supposes the hall ancestor worship in the home. Generally 30 (slightly enters in the year 29) before dawn, asks the ancestor the guardian rate sub-nephew to the outskirts to go home to celebrate the new year. Supposes the altar in the main room, is hanging “the family hall”, the exhibition genealogy, the ignition incenses and candles, display the high quality goods. Lunar New Year's Eve, the family member kowtows to the ancestor salutes, burns incense burns paper resembling money, to set off the firecrackers. Second day delivers the ancestors to turn over. Second month of Autumn the festival, the ancestors gala also has the sacrificial offering. … Seventh, courtesy In the 80s, the people associate the courtesy popular handshake, to cup one hand in the other across the chest, the nod to express best wishes. Spring Festival pays new year's call to the elder, the sacrificial offering ancestors, to offer condolences and so on special occasion, the countryside has the line to kneel the gift given to a visitor. Between the relatives and friends presents the present or invites, must retaliate in the suitable season. First meeting, introduces itself first, or presents the name card. Meets again after a long separation kindly shakes hand, extends the regards mutually. When distinction waves in greeting. At the banquet asks the visitor to take a seat first, proposes a toast offers food to a guest; After the mat disperses, visitor advance, and delivers to the wrong side of the door. Is riding in a carriage, situations and so on shopping, seeing a doctor, old, young, woman first. In the 90s, all levels of the government stress the promotion of cultural and ethical progress, observes the proprieties, politeness treats people, the words and deeds civilization becomes the fashion.